Is there a such thing as achieving peace? For me, it's an ebb and flow. Up and down.
I know there are things I can do to increase and maintain peace, but the reality is that some times, days, or seasons are just more peaceful than others.
Ironically, accepting that I won't always feel peaceful is what gives me a sense of peace.
Minimizing resistance to the imperfect times is a weight lifted, but it takes a lot of practice to shift my mindset and I have yet to master it .
At 30 years old, I've been through my fair share of good times and terrible times, uncomfortable transitions and amazing opportunities, scary leaps of faith and moments of pure hopelessness, huge celebrations, hormonal changes, and growth. All in all, life has been good to me (insert Jhene Aiko - Eternal Sunshine), but sometimes during the hard times it's difficult to feel anything other than anxiety and stress.
I've learned that I need to be more intentional about utilizing coping mechanisms that increase my peace during those times. I have learned to listen to my body, which requires being still and noticing certain pain or tension. Even the smallest abnormalities tell a story and I have to pay attention to when I feel them and when they go away. Our bodies always show us signs and most of the time we don't even catch them.
Writing is something I do to increase my peace and keep things in perspective. Talking through things with my mom or a friend also helps, but I’ve noticed that I have to be careful not to perpetuate the negativity when I’m talking. Sometimes, nothing helps and I have to just accept things as they are and ride the wave. I have to lean on my faith and trust that God has a plan.
Peace is on the way.
Lived and written by Vanessa Hobson
November 20. 2019
Vanessa is one half of the spiritual movement, The Outsiders.
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